Whether it’s for school, work, family obligations, or simply an attempt to leave a stagnant routine behind, most of us experience the disorienting business of picking up our belongings, and setting them down somewhere new. This action can take place on a small scale, such as when we leave our noisy, cockroach-infested downtown apartment for something a little quieter, if more rustic, on the outskirts of town. Or, it can be a massive move overseas or across the country, complete with an unknown language and a staggering sense of alienation. Regardless of the scale or reason, it’s difficult to conjure up those familiar adjectives about a new place — cozy, restful, Netflix-coma-inducing — and feel settled in a foreign environment. There are new neighbours (some maybe a little too friendly), new smells (hello, pulp mill), and new wildlife (that spider may be venomous). The following are some tips on how to feel settled in a new neighbourhood.
1. Surround Yourself with Familiar Objects that Bring you Comfort and Joy
Of course, this doesn’t mean schlepping every possession you’ve ever owned to your new abode. The key here is quality. It could be an evocative piece of original artwork, framed photos of loved ones, or perhaps a collection of rare beanie babies from your childhood (comfort is not about judgment). Ideally, display these objects in a place you will see every day. If they are well-chosen, they will remind you that you are still you, even if your new dig has hideous pastel wallpaper.
2. Go for a Walk in the Area Immediately Surrounding your House
Not only will this pilgrimage help to orient you, it will allow you to uncover the hidden gems in your neighbourhood that can often be missed when traveling by bus or by car. Perhaps there is a park nearby where you can direct your good intentions to go for brisk morning jogs. Or, maybe there is a corner store that sells emergency chocolate or wine. You may realize you live near a haunted-looking empty lot and make a mental note to avoid it after dark.
3. Know your Amenities
What sorts of amenities does your new neighbourhood have? It is helpful to know of organizations such as immigration welcome services, women’s centres, LGBTQ support centres, government buildings, police stations, hospitals, and recreation centres. In many cases, it’s useful to simply strut into these places (if you think you qualify for their services) and introduce yourself as new in the neighbourhood. Often, you will be loaded down with information pamphlets, business cards, activity guides and, if you’re lucky, free welcome candies. This can be a gateway to finding relevant resources, such as community food box programs (because honestly, fresh produce should always be relevant).
4. Draw a Crude Map of your New Surroundings
You can now beautifully render the amenities you found out about and re-name landmarks to better suit your purposes and personality. This also becomes a handy mental image to have on hand when old friends and relatives ask how far the nearest grocery store is from your new house, since, according to your map, it’s roughly three concrete buildings away from the public square, which is a gas-station away from your house. You will be giving lost drivers directions to nearby hotels in no time.
5. Keep in Touch with Old Friends
Just because you’ve moved on to a glamorous dorm room or an urban studio apartment doesn’t mean you should forget those who have supported you through your humble beginnings. Through the magic of social media and good old-fashioned phone calls, you can report back all of your fascinating adventures. If you want to make it even more retro, invest in a pack of stamps and mail letters and postcards to your loved ones. Most people appreciate receiving mail that isn’t related to the third final notice regarding their student loans.
So there it is, five simple steps towards feeling more settled in a new neighbourhood. If you have any advice you would like to add, please comment below. Stay tuned for a related poem on the topic of “settling in”.